Our next defense mechanism on the list is dissociation according to psych central, and this one puts ignoring the problem to a whole new level. Dissociation is a fancy way of playing pretend, and acting like everything is wonderful on the outside while stuff on the inside looks more like a tropical storm. This is probably one of the best ways to describe a fully transformed MLMer as they have been indoctrinated into their scheme.
Dissociation: Dissociation is when a person loses track of time and/or person, and instead finds another representation of their self in order to continue in the moment. A person who dissociates often loses track of time or themselves and their usual thought processes and memories. People who have a history of any kind of childhood abuse often suffer from some form of dissociation. In extreme cases, dissociation can lead to a person believing they have multiple selves (“multiple personality disorder”). People who use dissociation often have a disconnected view of themselves in their world. Time and their own self-image may not flow continuously, as it does for most people. In this manner, a person who dissociates can “disconnect” from the real world for a time, and live in a different world that is not cluttered with thoughts, feelings or memories that are unbearable. (http://psychcentral.com/lib/15-common-defense-mechanisms/)
Have you ever met someone that dressed in a nice suit, talked with a big smile, drove a nice car, had a great wife and kids, but you just felt like something was wrong (Uh oh MLMers...)? These people are forming a new identity, a perfect character to portray to the world, because the real self is full of disappointment and lack of achievement. These people talk fast, and look the part, but their bank account and their shrinks say otherwise. Ultimately the facade cracks, because the true self can't be contained forever and you get brief glimpses of the beast that lies inside. They are a person full of discontent as the character they have formed is not a true extension of themselves.
Dissociation with MLM is REAL!!! People in MLM are a prime example of dissociation, because one of their mantras is to fake it until you make it! They don't have the lifestyle they spout out on stage or in their videos, they don't have the happiness and satisfaction of earning a great life, they don't have confidence to be honest about who they truly are. They are a sham, spurious, and a mockery of everything you think is true and good. They form their character based on the sociological values we strive for, and imitate a personality we find wholesome. MLMers are chameleons of deceit, and the kings and queens of dissociating themselves from the reality they are condemned to.
IBOs are "taught" that they are nicer people and/or better spouses or parents because of Amway but it's just lipstick on a pig. The reality is Amway people are "nicer" if you are a prospect. If you turn them down, they don't give a crap about you then. Working with your spouse might seem like it's good for your marriage until you realize you could have spend better time together instead of an Amway functions and dropping off your kids at the sitters to attend meetings is not good parenting.
ReplyDeleteIt's just that upline teaches their downline wrong and dangerous thinking and the downline believes it because the upline diamond said it.
I agree, and with this article I would like to take it a step further. Not only are you putting lipstick on that pig, but you are also convincing that pig it is winning the beauty pageant. Some of these MLMers aren't uneducated, therefore it is important to realize the importance of teaching them how to dissociate themselves from the reality of the situation and to trick them into thinking they are going down the right path. This is no different from Newt Gingrich's interview on facts vs. feelings where he is literally discrediting facts and supporting how he and Trump feel.
Deletewonderful issues altogether, you simply won a new reader.
ReplyDeleteWhat would you suggest about your post that
you made a few days ago? Any certain?